Backbiting, is it good or bad?

Are you a backbiter? I am sure that everyone knows what a backbiter or backbiting is. If you want I will define the word backbiting. This word means that to censure, slander the absence of a person. So can you answer my question now? Because if you will ask me if I am like that, my answer is “I am one of the many.”

You might observed that I am very frank and very straight in answering this kind of question, it’s because this is the true me. I may be frank but when I say a word it is with honesty. And I maybe the type of person that censures somebody but what I am telling are all my observations and I am not the only one who just observe these things but also many people is like me and agrees with me. There is nothing wrong if you are going to backbite anyone in my opinion. And I know maybe some of you disagrees with me but please don’t judge me directly, try to know me better.

Our group, my friends, when we are together we keep on telling things about what we have observed something on a certain person, and this something may be good or may also be bad. But when we tell ugly things about a person or if we criticize a person, what we are saying are all truth and nothing else but only the truth.

Based on what I have observed on my classmates, many really like the topic backbiting or criticizing a person with his or her absence. I know that this topic is really interesting for many people especially the backbiters in town because there you can also find out if you feel anger to a person, in short you can express your feelings on that certain person through backbiting. That may be the positive effect on backbiting but of course thee is also the opposite effect.

When many people are happy on backbiting, the person that they backbite on could really feel bad towards them. And if the time comes that his or her heart will be filled with anger, this can result to a big conflict against the two groups.

So I suggest if you have anger on a person don’t backbite her or him instead you must have a confrontation with that person.

Honestly, sometimes I can’t really define the word backbiting. It is because I am confused if what I am doing and what my friends are doing are a sort of backbiting stuffs. Because I don’t know if we are only telling the truth or we are already criticizing a person. But now I already know what is really the word backbiting means. For me, it is a word which means that you are telling things you have observed without knowing the real side of the story or without knowing the person that well.

In my view, it only needs respect. Because if we have respect to each other’s true self, we will not have chaos or any misunderstandings.